Counselors

Kevin Bacon was once asked, “What makes your marriage last?” He didn’t miss a beat: “Clean fighting and dirty sex.” He has a point. The way a couple fights truly impacts both their health and relationship. Is your fighting a personal attack or an expression of your needs? Are you criticizing or being defensive? Maybe you’ve tuned the other out so much that your relationship feels cold and lonely. However and whatever brings you to my office, there is hope here. You’ll find my style to be directive, non-judgmental, and insightful. Attachment is my home base. I help you identify your relational patterns, where they come from, and how you can both take responsibility and share in the healing. I use humor frequently. When we can laugh at ourselves or even our situation, it helps – we all become real. When a couple “gets better” they physically look happier. The playful banter returns. Frequently, jumping to conclusions is replaced by asking questions. The couple reconnects. Conversation begins to flow naturally, there are no more eggshells to gently walk over. The couple develops a better understanding of their own needs and the needs of their partner.  Each partner feels heard and validated by the other. That’s the deep work, the beauty in my vocational specialty. It’s truly my great honor to help you discover a new, more connected, more intimate relationship.