Mary asked me to be honest with this, so here goes: when we first came to see Mary, we were ready to separate. I don’t think I had ever felt more disconnected with Liam. We fought most of the time, and honestly, we hurt each other quite a bit. I know I definitely felt hurt. I honestly didn’t think we could make it. I cannot describe in words what that feeling is like.
When Liam and I think back to where we were, we’re thankful for two main things. First, that we went and saw someone instead of just giving up. And not just someone, but someone who understood what was happening to us. Mary told us she works primarily with couples and it was obvious she had experience. Second, we could tell from the very beginning that she wanted us to make it. It was just a few subtle comments she made in our first meeting that seemed hopeful – at least they gave us hope. That turned out to be really important for us. Throughout our time with Mary she really worked hard with us to make progress, to help us understand what was happening in our relationship and also what was happening to us individually. She helped empower us to heal some old wounds that I never even realized were causing so much pain. And she got us working right from the beginning to communicate better, which seems like a simple thing, but for a couple that feels so disconnected, it was a big deal for us.
Today we have better self-esteem which helps us to have a better connection with each other. We have a stronger bond that we both feel. We are incredibly grateful to Mary – I wish I could rave more freely about her. What I’ll say is the greatest thing about her: she will work hard for your relationship in a way that helps you feel hope. You won’t waste your time with her – she gets you moving right from the get-go in a very safe and supportive way.