Intimacy comes in many forms. Beyond sex, it can be holding hands, having the emotional connection for deeper talks about who we are, or even just bringing our partner a cup of coffee in the morning. Sometimes, couples can excel in non-sexual intimacy but flounder when it comes to the bedroom. Sometimes they struggle with both.
“Sexless marriage” is one of the most searched phrases when it comes to marriage counseling and couples therapy. If you and your partner are struggling to make sex a consistent part of your relationship, you’re not alone. There is no “one” definition of what a normal sex life should look like. Every couple’s sexual relationship has its own uniqueness, strengths, and challenges. The real problem is we’re often hesitant to talk about it with each other, and when we do, we only focus on the problems.
This can be because of trauma, expectations, self-doubt, resentment—any number of factors can contribute to couples withdrawing from each other sexually. It may be both partners that are distanced, or may be just one.
We often find that couples need a solid foundation of trust and emotional safety to even begin talking about the deeper layers of their distance. That’s why we’re here to help.
So let’s talk about sex. Couples who live with the highest level of marital satisfaction have usually learned to communicate openly and have found ways to appreciate their partner’s strengths and differences. This conversation can also include gender roles and sexual understanding. A Well Marriage Center licensed professional therapist is trained to help couples navigate and understand these important dynamics and negotiations. The good news is an understanding of your relationship’s sexuality (both yourself and your partner) can foster a vibrant sex life and a thriving marriage!
Statistically, many couples wait until they think it’s “too late” before reaching out for help. However, we believe it’s never too late as long as you’re willing to do the deeper work!
Our therapists spend their careers focused on helping couples. This means they are specialized in all related issues like trauma, sex, intimacy, communication, and more. Our intake coordinator, Melinda, can help you choose the most appropriate therapist near you to help with your unique situation.
So, wherever you find yourself sexually in your relationship, we’re here to help support and hold hope for you both. Please feel free to reach out by clicking Get Started – you can also read our blog or find a therapist near you.